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Free workbook available now · Companion available Oct 18

The conversations that build a marriage.

Tend is a premarital companion built for the two of you. It starts with a workbook — five honest conversations about the things most couples never actually talk about before they get married: money, family, faith, conflict, and what it means to stay close when life gets hard. Not exercises to complete and file away. Conversations to have.

After the workbook, there’s the Tend Readiness Assessment — a free tool that maps your answers to five relationship domains and surfaces the patterns worth paying attention to. You get a Couple Readiness Report: where you’re strong, where to dig in, and what to bring into a counseling session if something bigger comes up.

Then there’s Tend — the companion. It holds what you said. It asks the question you’ve been avoiding. It is not a therapist and it will tell you that plainly. It is the presence that keeps the conversation going after the workbook is closed and before the wedding day arrives.

Before the Wedding

A workbook for couples who want
more than a wedding.

Five conversations. Plain language. Space to write. A framework for talking about the hard things before they become hard. Available free to every couple who asks.

Family of Origin

Where We Come From

Faith & Values

What We Believe

Finances

What We Have and What We Owe

Conflict

How We Fight

Intimacy

How We Stay Close

Start with the free workbook →

The Research

Built on the research.
Written for real couples.

The questions are plain. The framework is not. Every conversation in Tend maps to research that has been replicated across decades and hundreds of thousands of couples.

John Gottman

Four decades of laboratory research identifying the specific communication patterns — contempt chief among them — that predict divorce with startling accuracy.

Sue Johnson

The developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Her attachment science reframes conflict as couples reaching for each other — and missing.

PREPARE-ENRICH

A premarital assessment used by more than 175,000 counselors in over 140 countries. The five-domain framework Tend uses is drawn from this research tradition.

David Ferguson

A theologian whose work on intimacy and need-meeting runs beneath the relational theology woven through Tend — the belief that closeness is not accidental.

Available October 18

The companion.

Between-session support grounded in relationship science. Tend holds the couple’s context — their assessment results, their friction areas, the conversation that was hard last week. It checks in. It asks the one question. It points toward a Guide when something bigger surfaces.

Not a therapist. The presence that keeps the conversation alive between the workbook and the wedding day — and long after.

“Free with every ticket — GA and VIP.”

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Start where you are.

The workbook is free. The assessment is free. The conversation you’ve been avoiding is harder — but it’s the one worth having.

Start with the free workbook →